HOW TO PARENT WITH LOVE AND LOGIC
Do you want to raise wonderful kids using love and logic? You don’t need to be too lenient on your kids so that they become spoiled or be too harsh on them so that they become traumatized and scared of you. You just need to parent with love and logic. Here are 5 ways of parenting with love and logic:
1. Teach your kids
This is the first stage of parenting. If you need your kid to be hard-working, smart,
disciplined, and respectful, you must teach him/her. Most children of this time don’t like to work hard be disciplined or even be respectful. They do this because they see no benefit in these types of activities. Here is where you need to be different from other parents.
First, you must talk positively about what you want to teach them. For example, tell them stories of kids who did their homework, respected and helped their parents who later succeeded. This will make them see it as something beneficial to them which will make them do it. This not only makes kids like hard work but also instills positive thinking in their minds.
You need to be able to give answers when they ask questions like why they need to be hardworking. Instead of just replaying with because I said so which will make your kid fear you and hate doing the homework, replay with positive answers like you will succeed in your education if you do your homework. Also sometimes offer help if they need it and while doing so motivate them.
Lastly offer rewards sometimes to them for being hardworking and respectful. This makes them continue with their behavior or work but don’t give rewards every time. If you give rewards every time they will depend on them to do their homework and without those gifts they won’t do anything.
You can use these tips to teach your kid any behavior!
2. Be a good mirror
Do you know that your kids mirror your behavior? You might see your child holding the pen like you do or say a phrase you say often. Good Parenting not only improves the children’s lives but also improves your’s too. To make our kids great we also need to work on our behaviors and language. For instance, if you smoke and you don’t want your kid to do drugs, you may want to smoke outside the house. You can also stop cursing near your kids or use appropriate language around them. Be mindful that you are parenting and a good parent does what is good for his children. You might think that it’s too much but remember you want to raise amazing children and in the long end it might also benefit you, You may even start quitting smoking because of the simple fact that you don’t want your kids to start smoking. If your kids see in you good traits they will copy and mirror it.
3. Establish boundaries and deal with the rule breakers
Part of parenting with love and logic is to know when to be firm on your kids but I don’t mean harsh. Establish boundaries that you need to have in your home and obviously, they will be rule breakers every time there is a boundary. When your kid breaks one of the boundaries you need to show the consequence of the act. Before we go on, contemplate with me this quote. “Before you go on to punish your child, punish him as if it’s your last time seeing him or it’s your first time seeing him.” Think of this quote every time your child breaks a boundary and you want to punish him/her.
4. Let them have fun sometimes
In this world where everyone wants to raise hard-working, smart, and respectful children, we might end up raising robots. If we make them focus on working hard every time, we might make them burn out. We need to be mindful of what our children are going through or experiencing. Part of parenting with love and logic is having mindfulness but that is another topic. You can even plan a family trip and make them visit new places. This helps them to rest and recharge.
5 Be patient and Caring
It’s easier said than done to parent with love and logic. It takes a strong parent to endure the journey of parenting, Your children may not be the most obedient or the most hardworking but you need to be patient with them while they are learning. Be patient with them while they break the rules, fail a test, break something, or even do stupid things. I don’t mean you let them be spoiled but I mean the opposite be patient while you are trying to change and make them better. Also, be a caring parent who is mindful and takes care of his children if they are sick or have a problem.
